What are the facts?Friends, even well-meaning ones, are coming to your situation with advice that often stems from their own needs and wants. Change is difficult, even for others who are watching your change. They don’t know where you’ll wind up; where you might move to; if you’ll see them as much; if you might like their husbands; if you’ll have the same interests, once you change and your world changes. They’re scared, and unconsciously may want you to keep the status quo.
And, if you change, maybe they feel they must look at themselves, too, and their
choices.Also, these friends may be ignorant of alcoholism and the bizarre behavior of the alcoholic. They may think you’ve been exaggerating, a little. That you could, if you chose to, “put up with it.”
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If you are thinking about leaving, do it or don’t do it – because you choose to stay or leave. Just remember the facts – and don’t let your decision be muddied up by other well-intentioned, but ignorant, folks’ input.
Only you have to live with the results.
1 comment:
that is EXACTLY it too... People try to project their wants/needs/desires/ and remedies for regrets onto your life! One of the biggest pet peeves in the world! For example, if you have a family member pass away, and you are grieving, one of the first things people say is, "well I remember when I lost someone close to me" BAH! "I" don't care! Haha!
Glad "you" posted this!
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